Derek Hassack PCC, ABNLP

Post-Relationship Coaching, Mentoring and Mediation

Separation is life-changing event. It doesn’t have to be a life-damaging one.

The Work

I help you deal effectively with the emotional, psychological and practical fall-out arising from separation and divorce,

providing you with the techniques, insights and support you need as you build a more satisfying and purposeful life. My skillset, training and life-experience all combine to create a unique and holistic therapeutic experience for dealing with any and all of the various challenges thrown up by separation and divorce.

For example, I help you resolve or improve:

• Negative emotions

• Low confidence

• Trust issues

• Establishing boundaries

• Communications with your ex

• Parenting issues

• Career shifts

• Clarity around important decisions

• Self- esteem

• Renewed purpose

• Practical challenges

• Finding love again

• Building a satisfying life

• Start-ups

The end of a marriage is a perfect time to re-shape your life into something that truly satisfies. By resolving the negativity and challenges you may experience through separation, you’ll put yourself in the perfect position to start to live more authentically and powerfully. I am an experienced, professional ally for you, as you make that special journey from break-up to a life lived on-purpose.

Personal profile


I’ve been working professionally in the arena of personal development for over 14 years. However I was initially trained as a Psychiatric nurse (RMN), before crossing over into education where I worked for over 25 years, the last 17 of which were in various senior leadership and/or consultancy positions. I always had a particular interest in developing individual staff and staff teams.



Professional Co-active Coach, Master of NLP, Hypnosis and Time-line Therapy, Advanced Reconnective Healer, and CBT Practitioner. I also hold a First Class Honours degree in English Literature, and a Post-Graduate Certificate in Education

In 2010 I founded The Brilliance Pool, an organisation which provided high quality personal coaching for men and women over the age of 50 who wanted to ‘start again’, either professionally or personally.


Increasingly I found that it was relationships that were at the heart of most of my clients’ yearning for fulfilment, and eventually chose to specialise in this aspect of personal transformation.


I now help men and women successfully navigate their journey through separation and divorce. I use my experience and skills to enable them to deal effectively and fully with the various issues that arise, in order to build for themselves a new life that’s both authentic and deeply satisfying.



Writing has, since childhood, been one of my chief creative and therapeutic outlets. I must have written millions of words over the years! I also play the guitar and sing/write songs. (I’m an absolute legend in my own front room J) My first book Prodigal Songs (available on Amazon, Waterstones etc.) includes autobiographical material, alongside poetry, essays and song-lyrics.

Although a Manxman by birth, I've lived in Hampshire, Kent, Sussex and Hertfordshire before moving more recently to the Cotswolds where I live with my partner Yael Hochenberg, her two fine sons, and Monty the Border Collie. My three wonderful, beautiful, properly grown-up daughters from my first marriage continue to fill me with pride and awe.

I love being in the great outdoors, especially mountain landscapes, the wild sea, and all the beauty and drama of the natural world.

Underpinning all my endeavours has been the persistent voice of self-enquiry. This has promoted an active spiritual life which has found its greatest satisfaction in the practices and principles of Sufism.

All Programmes include:

· Face-to-face meetings with me

· Unlimited email communication

· My written summary of each consultation

· 2 or more ‘laser calls’ of up to 10 minutes each

· Free mentoring in a range of personal development techniques as     required e.g. meditation, mindfulness, confidence boosters etc.

· Free guides, handouts, materials etc.

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